We all go through challenging times and need friends to hear us and validate us when we are hurting or frustrated. Clarity is important in these moments.
When you need to reach out to a friend, call out what kind of response you want before you dive in.
This will prime your friend for what kind of response they should be ready to give. Whether it’s a hug, support, understanding, or advice, they can help you best if they know why you’re reaching out.
Some helpful language:
“I just need to vent.”
“I need to verbalize my feelings out loud because they’re just nameless emotions stuck in my body right now.”
“Will you put on your listening ears for me?”
“I’m judging myself for feeling a certain way. Can you validate my feelings?”
“I need outside perspective and guidance. If you were me, what would you do?”
“I need to work through an issue.”
Remember – your friends have feelings, distractions, and stuff going on too! Calling out the kind of support you need before expressing your feelings will help your friend help you the best way they can!
You Deserve Good Things,
Coach Juli Lynn